Showing posts with label Secure Not Stressed. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Secure Not Stressed. Show all posts

Friday, April 30, 2010

The Best Daughter

Have I mentioned lately that we have a wonderful daughter? Well we do. Olivia is 11. She's smart, she's funny, she likes to work hard, she loves little kids, she wants to grow and be a mom and she's happy. She's been solidly in scholar phase for 9 months. Really. We haven't pushed her, we haven't expected, she just is.
She has amazing control of her emotions for an eleven year old. She is on her journey to being a wonderful young women. She likes to sew, crochet, knit, and loom. She likes practical things and she likes to make things beautiful. She LOVES to cook. I can't keep her out of the kitchen. She can make anything. She makes bread, salad dressing, doughnuts, casseroles, cakes, salads, meat, potatoes, green smoothies, etc. She can really make anything.


She spends most of her day reading and studying. She is currently passionate about The Revolutionary War time period and has spent her whole scholar phase so far studying anything she can about it. She is working hard on her writing. She understands the principles of freedom and democracy. She is working on articulating them because she wants to defend them. She pours over the classics.

Here's a quick list of some of the books that Olivia as read in the last year:
The Scarlet Letter
Plutarch
Midshipmen Hornblower
The Screwtape Letters
Leaves of Grass
Walden
The Secret Garden
The Real George Washington
Common Sense
Pride and Prejudice
Jane Eyre
The Proper Role of Government
Johnny Tremaine
Silas Marner
The Little Britches series
The Work and the Glory series
The Book of Mormon
The New Testament
The Doctrine and Covenants
The Pearl of Great Price



She also loves the outside. She loves working with our horses. She loves going on walks. She loves working hard.

Olivia is amazing and we are honored she's our daughter. Whenever I look at her I hope that somewhere out there that there is an amazing your man to match her. I believe that there is. I believe there are moms out there training their sons to be great also in hopeful expectation that there is a spouse worthy of their child.

So here's to all you great parents that are doing the hard things (and making 'best' choices) to raise your children to greatness. You are not alone.

Monday, March 8, 2010

Our Days Now

So I thought I'd break down what our days look like now that we have been off the conveyor belt for two and half months. Who-rah!

Our "day" actually starts on Sunday night when we have a family meeting. We each review the goals we made last week and we each set a couple of goals for the coming week. All goals are completely up to the family member. No pressure or expectation to do anything. If they may be struggling with a goal we help them set a simpler goal if it was something important to them.

Week day: Alex and I drag ourselves out of bed at 7 AM. Yes, I know that's late, but we are working on it. But we are always up by then. We both read our scriptures, journal, read some conference talks (aka devotionals) and ponder until about 8 or 8:15.

Olivia get up at 7 also and her stewardship is breakfast. She's only been doing it for two months. She'll get another one in a couple of months. We've always had hot breakfast at our house. So she makes hot breakfast. She can make ANYTHING. She is totally cooking self-sufficient. Today she made homemade buttermilk pancakes with a special homemade butter syrup. Yummy!

In the mean time Jared's up and in the shower. He's read his scriptures and practiced his piano by 8:30.

Luke drags him self up by 8. He gets ready for the day and reads his scriptures. Sometimes he practices the piano and sometimes he doesn't do that until the afternoon.

Caleb wakes up at a different time everyday. He usually shows up to breakfast in shorts. He's in core phase. And being around him for 5 minutes you know it! He's obliviously happy with his life.

At 8:30 everyone has to report to breakfast deslobbed for the day and ready to go. After breakfast (during too) we have scripture study and usually a very lengthy discussion about something we read. Then we practice our scripture memorization for the week. We review our goals for the week. After family prayers Alex leaves for the day.

The boys finish their chores and brush their teeth. Then I usually spend a couple of hours with the boys reading books, playing games, or whatever they want. I usually try to spend some time with each one individually learning whatever they want. Usually the older boys will sit in front of our "love of learning" bookshelf and pull off random books and read about anything they want. (We call this "structure time, not content." Regulary one of the boys makes a goal to "do 30 minutes-or however long-of structure time, not content"). They'll spread all over the room and have books everywhere and hop from book to book. They usually can't wait to tell me what they learned. Sometimes we'll put an event or a person on our huge time line that takes up our entire library room. I've changed our family reading to the library room instead of the living room. This has been good because there are lots of things to do and we can really quickly look up something on the computer if we don't understand what we read or we want to see more pictures or whatever. Today we looked up to see when the Hebrew month Nisan was. Very cool you know.

In the meantime Olivia disappears for the day and reads and reads and reads and then writes essays in between. She only shows up at meal time or to walk to our land and check the horses.

Luke is in charge of lunch and so he prepares it for everyone. I still have to help him with it depending on what it is.

After lunch on two days we have to rush off to a scholar school/play date and piano lessons. We are gone for several hours on those days. When we come back from them the kids usually play outside until dinner. (I'm in charge of dinner, but Olivia usually shows up and cooks half of it because she just loves to cook). During lunch we have a big ole' discussion out of the Gospel Principles book about some theology topic. The kids enjoy our discussions and they don't let me forget to do this!

On the other days the kids just keep reading. Jared spends time with Caleb. Jared's stewardship is to mentor Caleb and so he'll usually do it then. We'll play more games or read more books. It just depends on their mood. There is more individual time in the afternoon then in the morning. Who ever didn't practice the piano by breakfast usually does it in the afternoon. Luke sometimes needs reminded to practice, but he does it willingly. They all practice and take piano willingly. I take lessons and practice right along side of them so I think playing the piano is like reading your scriptures-you just do it and don't think about whether you want to do it or not. Family culture?

There is no "school's out time." There is no magical, "Oh, now we get to watch a movie." We just keep on reading and keep on playing. The kids can play 30 min of the Wii in the afternoon-sometimes. They have to stand up and they have to cardio things like boxing.

During dinner we pull out a discussion question and have a big discussion about current events, theology or past history situations. This time is when Alex really gets to talk with the kids about what they think. After dinner if Alex is home we play ping pong while the kids do the dishes. If Alex was home for dinner he usually has to leave for somewhere else so he doesn't stay long. After dinner they play. Sometimes they read (okay a lot of the time). Sometimes we play more games. Sometimes I read more to them. Sometimes we go somewhere.

Caleb pretty much plays hard all day long. He can sort of last through parts of our family reading time. He does like reading to me and so he always sits down to do that. If Caleb has a whole day of playing games and/or playing dress up (dress up as a knight, or Native American or a Roman) he considers the day a success. Today he was in the bath tub for almost 2 hours. He also played play dough for an hour. He's just silly and happy.

We usually put the kids to bed around 9:30. Olivia stays up late reading. She doesn't have a bedtime because she's a scholar. (You wouldn't think an 11 year could study for 8+ hours a day, but she does. And she reads hard things). Luke lies in bed for 1 1/2 hours before he falls asleep. The kids all listen to books on tape or music as the go to sleep. Alex and I usually don't get to sleep until 11.

We stay busy enough with outside things though. It seems like we are gone somewhere for the afternoon or the evening. The kids have piano lessons, 4-H, Cub scouts, scholar school/social play date, and I have things regularly too.

Anyway. There you go. My kids always tell me, "I love my love mom! Thanks for home schooling me." When we drive by the school they say, "I'm so glad I'm home mom. " They've also told me many times that they feel sorry for those kids that have to go to school. "Maybe some day their mommies will let them come home."

Oh, today their piano teacher said, "You kids are always reading such big books!"

We love learning at home and we're happy. : )

Tuesday, February 2, 2010

Another great day

What another wonderful day! I love spending each day with my children and teaching them things of eternity and things of this world. Today a highlight was a very in depth discussion of Jesus Christ and his role as our Savior and Redeemer.

The are really eating up our latest read-a-loud, of course they usually do.

We've made a lot of changes to our schedule over the last several months and these changes have all been good ones! Each day I think and ponder about how I can do better, how I can motivate and inspire and how I can instill greatness into their little minds.

Olivia has a goal this week of consciously getting 5 hours of scholar study each day. That has been going well for her. She is particularly drawn to studying the piano and reading American History.

Here's a run down of our time together today... (Sometimes we do a lot together and some days we pursue more individual activities. Today was an all morning couch read).

Family Scripture Study:
2 Nephi 5
Weekly Family Scripture Memorization: 3 Nephi 17:6
Theology: We read/discussed the third chapter in Gospel Principles-Jesus Christ.
Pledge/Pray/Song
Music: We sang My Savior Loves Me, The Valiant Song, Friends, The Old and New Testament Songs and the Books of the Book of Mormon song. We also practiced our rhythm poem that we love.
Christianity: We read half of the new children's Friend.
Math: We discussed the types of triangles and polygons. They are starting to get their vocabulary down more and more. We have been trying to focus on geometry specifically besides basic math skills at the moment.
Read-a-loud: We read 4 chapters of Alex Rider #1: Stormbreaker.
Social: Spend several hours this after noon playing with a couple other home school families. They played outside and they also played RISK.
Peterson's Vocabulary Word of the Day: -WINSOME -(adjective) Charming. With her pleasant voice and good manners, Serena is a winsome child.
Chores/Animal Care

Here are some things that I can remember. It is late and my brain is fogging over...

Caleb:
Read his scriptures (in 1st Nephi), read to his public school teacher on the phone, coloring, and played Connect 4, I know he did more, but I absolutely can not remember much of anything with him right now for some reason.

Luke: Read his scriptures (in Mosiah), practiced the piano, and played ping pong. ditto above note

Jared: Read his scriptures (in 2nd Nephi), practiced the piano, push ups, read in Peter and the Shadow Thieves, played ping pong and played Music Ace.

Olivia:
Read her scriptures (reading in the New Testament-Gospels), wrote in her journal, practiced the piano, practiced her vocal solo, finished 55 Fathers: The Story of the US Constitution, wrote an article for the 4-H newsletter, wrote her compass, attended a scholar class with her mentor and discussed The Screwtape Letters some more, and read in Pride and Prejudice.

Deanna: Read my scriptures (in Mosiah/all over), wrote in my journal, read a conference talk, practiced the piano, reading in Approaching Zion by Hugh Nibley, and went to the temple.

Alex: Read his scriptures (all over/BOM), reading in the Church Handbook, reading in Dale Carnegie's Public Speaking book, listening to The Proper Role of Government by Ezra T. Benson, listening to speeches by Ronald Reagan, listening to Alex Rider #2, attended his professional meeting, played ping pong, walked on the treadmill, and went to work.

Friday, January 22, 2010

What's the most important? My brain on paper.

The beautiful thing about home schooling is that we are able to study and learn about anything we want! We can also focus on anything we want.

I've read so many wonderful blog posts and articles about some of the things that others have done. They have inspired me to great ideas within my own family. I love it! I have read about nature study, composer study, history of all shapes and sizes, science of all shapes and sizes, science experiments, music theory, art study, biography study, art techniques, creative writing, grammar including diagramming sentences, spelling, time lines, life skills, violin study, piano, a multitude of other instruments, literature (this list is huge!), money management, geometry, algebra, astronomy, Shakespeare, Greek, Latin, Sign Language, Spanish, French, Geometry, PE, logic, rhetoric, and the list keeps going and going and going......

I've been thinking what are the most important things for my family. I feel that I only have a short time with my kids before they are gone and I'm no longer their teacher. I need to narrow this list down! I've simplified it to the most essential and then identified within that what is the most important. I don't know what to label these?

Level 1: Core Phase Behavior
Level 1B: Reading, Writing, Arithmetic in it's basic sense

Level 2:
  • Life Skills: House hold management
  • Theology: Specifically narrowed down to the Gospel Principles Manual
  • Literature: Greek classics, Shakespeare and Dickens
  • Math: Money Management and Geometry (if our roof is X size, how many shingles do we need?, etc)
  • Music: Piano and specifically Music Theory

Level 3:

  • History: Specifically American History
  • Science: Physical Science?

Level 4:

  • Art
  • Astronomy
  • Foreign Language

The farther down the list you go the less I've actually thought about it. I have put a lot of thought in the first two levels though. A lot! What is the most important? If I didn't teach them anything else what is absolutely essential for our family.

My husband and I absolutely love history and so do our children. We don't even have to teach that subject in our home, they just know it. It just is. That is why that's not more of a focus. Science? I just didn't think it was the most important for our family to focus on. I'm certain that some families will have that focus instead of music like we have.

I'm not saying that we won't do science or art, I'm simply identifying my focus. Everything after that is a bonus. I just need to get my bases covered. I'm still thinking. Like I said, "My brain on a paper."

So have any of you narrowed down your focus and really thought about what is the most important for your family to know and understand?

State Testing

I am happy to report that we are still plowing on course for a leadership education. There have been some bumps in the road but we are still on course! Yeah! The kids are happy, I'm happy, dad's happy....

There is one "thing" we still do though that has us occasionally showing up in the public school world. The dreaded state testing. I know several of you wonder why we are still doing it if we've chosen leadership education. It does seem contradictory.

  • The money. Sometimes things always come down to money, huh? We get several thousands dollars a year from the state to buy curriculum (if we test) of all sizes and shapes. We can get computers, internet, classic books, math books, games, art supplies, office supplies, copy paper, on line resources, magazine subscriptions, reading resources, music lessons, etc.
  • The accountability. Even though I'm a fairly motivated person it's nice to know that I have to keep inspiring, keep asking them to play games, and just plain keep going because I've got a report to fill out at the end of the month!
  • I still get to do everything my way. I just have to give a monthly report, a year end report and state test.
  • Testing is real world. In my husband's occupation he regularly has to take tests of all shapes and sizes from state testing, national testing and business testing. We just have to take tests in this world. So in our family we find it helpful to have them experience it.
  • Protection. In our world you never know when the law is going to come down on you. Since we are technically enrolled in a public school we feel a sense of protection.
Those are some of the reasons. I think it really depends on the family. Leadership education is family led, so we each get to structure our learning based on our own needs and desires as well as what we see in the future that our children need.

I also wanted to throw in that we don't practice to the test. We just show up and take the test. It's not a big deal. it's just what you do. No stress. Secure, Not Stressed (the 8th Key to Great Teaching).

I hope that answers some questions I've been getting. I love the personalization of home school. Homeschooling is the best!!!